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Do you find yourself asking Why won’t my ex call me back? more than you ask yourself any other question these days? Does he ignore your messages and never call back? Do you beg, plead and cry into his answering machine hoping he will finally give in and give you a ring?
Sometimes trying too hard is your biggest problem. The best thing you can do right now is give yourself a break. Step back, relax, leave town for a few days, and devote some time to finding out exactly what you expect or want from your ex. There are ways to almost guarantee he will call you back, but if you are not fully prepared with a step by step plan the whole thing will end in disaster. Again.
There is a seemingly magic formula that almost works as well as casting a spell to make your ex want to return your phone call, but until you know exactly what you are doing, do not do anything at all. Instead, start by asking yourself a few questions and be completely honest with your answers?
- Why do I need him to return my calls so badly? Is it just to take care of details (who is picking up the dog at the vet, come get your stuff off my couch, that sort of thing) or am I hoping for something more?
- Am I secretly hoping to get my ex back?
- Was our old relationship so wonderful that it is really not best to just let it go?
- What special things did I love about him?
- Why did he fall in love with me in the first place?
- Did he hit me or shower me with verbal abuse? Warning: If the answer to this one is “yes”, even if only one time (and he flat-out BEGGED your forgiveness), DO NOT try to get him back. Do not contact him. Walk away and start a new life. You don’t deserve abuse.
After you have answered all those questions honestly, if you still want him to call you back, there are steps you can take that will put you on the right track. It is all set forth in a little book called The Magic of Making Up, which you really need to get your hands on before you set forth on your own to get your ex back (or to just get him to call you back so you can find out where he left the can opener).
The Magic of Making Up is more than simply a book. It is a whole system for repairing damaged relationships (or keeping them healthy to begin with) created by a down to earth guy named T.W. Jackson. T.W. doesn’t have a PhD or any other sheepskins hanging on his wall — but he knows people and relationships and has helped over ten thousand people around the world keep their relationships healthy.
In a nutshell, the strategy for getting your ex to call you back is simple: Don’t beg, don’t lie. Stir up his curiosity and appeal to his self interest. If you play it right, he will return your call thinking it was his own idea to call you. The whole plan can’t be covered in one short article, so you must read the book first so you do nothing to cause further damage to your relationship. If you don’t plan ahead, he might return your call and catch you unprepared for what to do next.